Aiyo, why are you guys so amused by me being fat. LOL... One thing about me, the happier I am the more I will eat hahahaha... Directly proportional one. Lol... Good lor. Now I'm you bai you pang. Hahaha. Sigh~

Erm I shall move on to something else...

I've been wanting to talk about this for months - the D (for domineering) people. It's good to have them around, they are always the ones getting things done, keeping things in order. However, too much of something is not good.

Take my boss as an excellent example. I respect him a lot. Not because of his position/importance but simply because he respects me as well. He has every reason to scold/raise his voice at me, but he didn't. He remains composed and patiently teaches me the right way to do things. *Salute!* He has every reason to command me around, but he didn't. He says his 'please's and 'thank you's.

He is firm yet reasonable. Let's face it, a loud scolding doesn't work anymore. (Getting a little absolute here..) It may be effective 20 years ago, but people have since learnt the fine art of fighting for their rights (or they'd call it 'rebel'). Scoldings are just a big loud nothing. It's not a matter of being teachable when the teaching method is 'wrong' in the first place. (wrong as in inappropriate)

We gotta realise that most of the time, the unspoken things are ironically louder than the things we hear. That is, in a scolding, yes we hear words. But even louder are a sense of rejection and disapproval. And the latter lingers in a person longer than words.

Of course I'm not talking about scolding a kid. I totally side parents who do that when necessary. I'm talking about people who have reached a certain level of maturity and sensibility, when scoldings are just big dramas.

What do you think?
Refutation is welcomed.

Myself, I'm still learning too...